Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Fear

Background:

Designed for the 2006 division contest, Hanzo Ng shows us why he is master speaker...

Actual Speech:

His body was shaking. His legs were trembling. His face looks absolutely terrified. He mumbled to himself, “Will they like my story?”, “What if I fail to pronounce (kollectly) correctly?”, “What if they laugh at me?”

It was his first assignment. He is required to present a story in front of the class. At the age of 7, the experience was dreadful. As he began his presentation, he heard giggling coming from the back of the room. He sweats. At the middle of his presentation, the class erupted with laughter, he stops. He looks down at his pants and to his surprise, it’s all wet.

Contest chair, honorable judges, fellow toastmasters and friends who have ever ‘pee pee’ in your pants before,

That 7 year old boy was me. Was… me. That means I was a little smaller, a little thinner and on top of my head, there is hair.

Ladies and gentleman, we don’t FEAR the thing we FEAR. I FEARED the consequences. At that point in time, I didn’t FEAR the assignment. I didn’t FEAR the presentation. What I FEARED, was what people thought of me if I failed.

I went bungee jumping 2 years ago. Bungee jumping is a word that immediately triggers FEAR doesn’t it?

Do I fear bungee jumping? No I don’t. What I fear is, if I bungee jump from 60ft above ground, and the rope that ties my leg breaks; I fall flat to the ground, smashing myself to pieces and from then on, I will not have any chance to eat pizza, chocolate or durian ever again! That’s what I fear. So in reality, we actually FEAR the bad consequences that would happen to us and not the thing we FEAR itself.

Because F…E...A...R..., FEAR means False Expectations Appearing Real.

It is the thing we imagine, that makes it scary. That stops us. That holds us back. And after years of studying the techniques and finding ideas to break through FEAR, I realized the best way to do so… is… through KNOWLEDGE plus EXPERIENCE.

KNOWLEDGE… means we know what’s going to happen. Here’s something most of us FEAR. Table topics! In my club, if the table topics master does not disclose the topic and ask for a volunteer, all of a sudden we need to reply our SMS, or we need to tie our shoes, or the need to dash to the toilet.

Why? Because we do not have the KNOWLEDGE of what the topic is going to be. We fear because we thought the topic is going to be, “how to understand women?” We all know Men will not be able to answer that! And women will not answer that!

But it is proven, if the topic is disclosed, there will be more volunteers to attempt the topic. Because we already have the information, the knowledge of what’s going to happen…. Therefore risk is minimized. When risk is minimized, danger is minimized. And when danger is minimized, FEAR is minimized. After knowledge… we need…

EXPERIENCE. Experience comes from doing. I am a martial artist and I do sparring… fighting in the class. Initially, it was very scary, because I do not have the KNOWLEDGE of what’s going to happen. But the more I do it, the better I get at it. As a result it gives me confidence. With confidence, it’s no longer scary. No more fear.

KNOWLEDGE, means having the information to know what’s going to happen.
EXPERIENCE, gives us confidence because it confirms our knowledge of what’s going to happen.
Together, they give us power to break through FEAR.

Since I realized this truth, I’ve done sky diving, bungee jumping and raising my hand for table topics.

Ladies and Gentleman, the word FEAR is written on this board. I have the KNOWLEDGE that this board will not break my hand and for the rest of my life causing me to write emails with my foot.

I have the EXPERIENCE of doing this numerous times in my martial art classes; therefore there is no fear at all in breaking through this FEAR board.

I know if I do not breakthrough FEAR, I’ll be slave to FEAR. I must bring up the power within me to control my life and not let FEAR control me.

If we realize, aware and consciously gather KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE, we will easily… break through FEAR.

(Breaks board)

Ladies and gentleman, today, I broke through FEAR, completed my presentation, and the good news is, there isn’t any ‘pee pee’ in my pants.

Contest chair!

By, Hanzo Ng